Welcome to 11th Grade.

YOU HAVE 104 WEEKS AND COUNTING...
IT'S JUST A PHASE - DON'T MISS IT! 
Your time is limited so make the most of every moment! Every Phase is a timeframe in a kids life when you can leverage distinctive opportunities to influence their future.  
YOUR JUNIOR MAY IMPRESS YOU.
The rapid influx of hormones has regulated, the fight for peer acceptance has subsided, and the inentsity of conflict over independence... well, they've worn you down.  You may begin to see glimpses of rationality as your junior finds their voice, fills their calendar, and accomplishes some surprising things.

"ACCOMPLISH" IS THE WORD FOR THIS PHASE.
Juniors often take on AP courses, volunteer activities, leadership roles, SAT prep, or an internship.  Whether your teen is caught up in the rase to win, or simply trying to survive, junior year is filled with pressure.  Navigating all of this pressure is your junior's major accomplishment.

IT CAN BE HARD TO KEEP UP.
Actually, they don't expect you to keep up.  What they really want is for you to trust them.  After all, they will be out of the house soon, and you will have to trust them anyway.  Let this be a practice year for both of you.  Help them prove the ways they can be trusted, choose your battles wisely, and parent them in the areas that seem to be most challenging for them personally.

Your role is to

MOBILIZE

their potential

Your eleventh grader is ready to live the life they feel they were born to live- and they don't want to wait to get started.  Two years is too long!  Actually, next semester feels like forever in the future.  Your junior is ready to do something, right now.  Mobilize their potential by listening, guiding, and encouraging their self-expression.

Your teenager...

THINKS LIKE A PHILOSOPHER

You help them learn when you... ask questions.

wants to know  "HOW CAN I MATTER?"

You capture their heart when you... refine their skills.

is motivated by freedom.

You coach their moral abilities when you... encourage and help them to serve others

leverage daily moments for more impact.

MORNING TIME

Instill purpose by starting the day with encouraging words.

MEAL TIME

Connect regularly by scheduling time to each together (even once a week).

BED TIME

Interpret life when they occasionally open up at the end of the day.  (Stay consistently available- just in case.)

THEIR TIME

Strengthen your relationship by adjusting your plans to show up when they need you.

Your ninth grader is changing...

Physically

  • Has difficulty falling asleep before 11pm (it's biological)
  • Needs 9 hours of sleep and one hour of exercise per day
  • Girls have likely reached adult height and body development
  • Guys may continue to grow in height and develop muscle mass, body and facial hair

Socially

  • Dating relationships may become more "committed"
  • Increased interest in sexual expression (54% of eleventh graders report being sexual active)
  • Cares deeply about issues like control, responsibility, and freedom (both personally and globally)
  • Tends to be self-focused, busy, and unavailable

Mentally

  • Can be insightful and incisive about complex issues
  • Wired for risk-taking
  • Highly self-aware; may think "Everybody's watching me"
  • Tends to be opportunistic and idealistic
  • Struggles with long-term thinking
  • More capable of grasping paradox, hyperbole, innuendo, and satire

Emotionally

  • Values humor as a positive point of connection
  • Becoming more at ease with who they are; may become more honest than in previous phases
  • Often takes on more than they can handle
  • May struggle with regulating emotions and social control

we are for you.

Parenting is complicated, you want to get it right, we want to help!

At Anthem, we've created an environment specifically designed for High School students called INSIDEOUT.   If you have any specific questions our Student Ministries Director Philip Floor would love to chat!