Welcome to 9th Grade.

YOU HAVE 208 WEEKS AND COUNTING...
IT'S JUST A PHASE - DON'T MISS IT! 
Your time is limited so make the most of every moment! Every Phase is a timeframe in a kids life when you can leverage distinctive opportunities to influence their future.  
YOU MAY NOTICE A FEW NEW FRIENDS
The average high school has 750 teenagers, 250 dating couples, and more than 50 options for extracurricular activities.  With so many opportunities to connect, your high schooler may find their place in engineering class or on the debate team, in drama club or on the basketball court, in YMCA or Beta Club.

THERE IS A NEW ACADEMIC REALITY
Ninth grade means increased demands for personal responsibility.  For those headed to college, grades begin to count toward future admission.  For everyone, grades count toward a high school diploma.

THIS IS A YEAR OF IDENTIFYING TALENTS
By the end of this year, your teenager will have a more stable sense of who they are.  Frankly, they may be a little frustrated you haven't known who they were all along.  (Why not?  It's been so obvious.). Listen carefully.  Pay attention.  Stalk them openly.  The greatest thing you can do in this phase is to continually rediscover who they are becoming and where they are finding acceptance.

Your role is to

MOBILIZE

their potential

High school means higher stakes.  Many freshman spend this year redefining who they thought they were or what they thought their future would be.  Pay attention.  Ask questions.  This is a significant year.

Your teenager...

THINKS LIKE A PHILOSOPHER

You help them learn when you ask questions.

wants to know  "where do I belong?"

You capture their heart when you value community.

is motivated by freedom.

You coach their moral abilities when you give choices.

leverage daily moments for more impact.

MORNING TIME

Instill purpose by starting the day with encouraging words.

MEAL TIME

Connect regularly by scheduling time to each together (even once a week).

BED TIME

Interpret life when they occasionally open up at the end of the day.  (Stay consistently available- just in case.)

THEIR TIME

Strengthen your relationship by adjusting your plans to show up when they need you.

Your ninth grader is changing...

Physically

  • Has difficulty falling asleep before 11pm, but still needs 9 hours of sleep per day.
  • Guys are getting taller, smellier, hairier, and gaining muscle mass;  may also experience voice changes, weird dreams, and increased acne.
  • Girls bodies take on an adult physical appearance; after menstration, increase in height will slow, then stop

Socially

  • Girls begin wearing make-up on a regular basis
  • Increased interest in sexual expression, but dating tends to be short-lived.
  • Say they want parents to listen more than advise.
  • May be tempted to change their appearance or behavior to gain acceptance.

Mentally

  • Increasingly able to focus, recall, and organize information.
  • Overly self-aware; may think "everybody's watching me"
  • Wired for risk taking and sensational experiences
  • Resists embarrassing situations
  • "I'm bored" often means, "I don't understand"

Emotionally

  • Feels empowered through choices rather than rules.
  • May still feel insecure about their changing body.
  • May experiences changes in motivation.
  • Seeks experiences that create intense feelings and emotions
  • More vulnerable to addiction, such as self-hard, alcohol, and pornography.

we are for you.

Parenting is complicated, you want to get it right, we want to help!

At Anthem, we've created an environment specifically designed for High School students called INSIDEOUT.   If you have any specific questions our Student Ministries Director Philip Floor would love to chat!